Walls Walls everywhere, I think I'll keep to myself
So I was having a discussion with a friend of mine the other day, and it came up that she thinks I am not any closer to truly being over the ex and moving on than I was 9 months ago. Not so much being hung up, but keeping myself shut off. The so called emotional "walls". I really couldn't respond with anything but a "uh, yeah well you are just a girl, leave me alone". I hadn't realy thought about it and put it together, but she is right. I'm much happier now, but I'm still very shut off to letting people get close to me. I'm very open, very honest, very much looking, but also not letting anyone get beyond the more or less superficial stuff.
How long is normal for this? It was eight years, but I'm happy, I'm happy for her, I'm happy for my friends, but even I can tell I'm emotionally distant. What the fuck is up with that?
posted by ThatGuy @ 8:45 PM
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4 Comments:
Ohh trust me I have my walls too. You will put them down when your ready don't worry!
it's really hard to step outside of ourselves and see how appear to others.....I try to do this all the time.
I agree with Erika, you will put those walls down when you feel you can, when you feel safe, when you are ready.
Those walls are there for reason.
(like it or not).
Trust yourself.
Blessings!
The walls will come down when you meet someone worth taking them down for until then don't worry........it will happen when it's supposed too.
There is no real time frame for getting over someone. The years together doesnt mean anyting.
I agree with Kristen that when you meet the right person you'll want to lower the walls, somehow , some way...
I was with someone for 2 yrs and it took me a good year to be at a good place about it all, granted I dont know how I would react if I had him in front of me.
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