Another big week coming up
I've been a little busy the last week. At least I get today to sit and relax and watch football. Now that I'm apparently the go to guy at my job, so when the new investors come in on Tuesday, I have been given the task of getting dressed up and being part of the presentation. Its both good and bad. I'm part of the showcase, what is going right and new business coming in, but at the same time, I have to speak in front of a group in a pretty important situation. I hate public speaking, though I do look good when I get dressed up.
A friend of mine will likely be coming to visit me in a week or two. We have not seen each other in a while (years). We have never dated, never hooked up, never nothing. We have been talking/texting/emailing a lot lately, and a lot of the conversations are toward the idea of maybe trying one or more of those things. We have both been single for a while, but neither are really sure of what to make of this situation. When she visits, she will be staying with me (I'll sleep on the couch of course).
So I give these options of plans:
1) Dinner and/or Movie
2) Walk the mall, talking and just catching up
3) Visit the zoo
4) Get a case/bottle of booze and lock ourselves in my room or a hotel room
5) Go to a bar and sit and relax with a few drinks
6) Other (if other, please specify)
Part 2, if things go well, do I:
1) Keep it completely and totally platonic
2) Keep it to hand holding
3) Cuddle on the couch/while sleeping
4) Just a light kiss
5) Full makeout
6) Try for more
I'm a bit conflicted with the whole situation. I'm better, but still not over the hurt inflicted by the ex. I do not want to end up hurting anyone and losing another friend because of that. I'm probably over thinking it, but oh well. Some thoughts and opinions are welcomed.
posted by ThatGuy @ 2:15 PM
7 comments
7 Comments:
Don't overthink it. Just let it happen. It will be what it is supposed to be.
I'm with Coacharob.....don't worry about the What if's.....enjoy the time together and if something comes out of then you guys are pretty lucky, if you just decide to remain friends then that's great too.....
wouldn't you rather know one way or the other instead of always having the what if's go through your mind
The zoo.......penguins rock
Ok, I forgot to answer part 2.....
*sigh*
Don't overthink it........let whatever happens, happen naturally......you can't plan out things like that ahead of time.....
she'll give you the signs...if you reach for her hand and she smiles......then you're probably safe with a arm around the shoulder, if you kiss her cheek and she gives you that look like she wants more.......then kiss her.......she'll give you the signs if she's interested
ditto what coacharob and kristin said. try to relax and just let things happen naturally. i'm sure you'll have alot of catching up to do, and if there's more than platonic feelings on her end, you'll know it.
good luck!
if she's coming to stay with you, i'd go with a dinner at a nice place and catch up over food and drinks...
as for what you do? that's a joint decision you both need to make. don't make it after a night of drinking, make it after a night of drinking leads to something and you are smart enough to show some restraint.
fucking someone and then talking about it only leads to them being shitty and pissed if what they wanted is totally divergent from what you wanted. trust me, that's how we women work. we'll say it's fine, not a big deal, then go home, cry for a few hours, and reason it out that you used us and are an asshole.
I think you've gotten some pretty solid advice here. Let things happen naturally and no overthinking.
And I totally agree with da buttah...on her last part.
Good luck
Relax and play it by ear!
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